Is it wrong for a man to reject a woman because she is fat?
Obesity is a sub-optimal or even dangerous health condition, people with obesity face all kinds of health problems purely because of being fat, high blood pressure, heart disease, lack of energy, to name a few. No sane person would consciously want to be fat except sumo wrestlers and strongman athletes (however they are muscly as hell not just fat ).
If a person is fat, barring medical reasons, then their control over their diet and lifestyle choices in general comes into question, because one simply does not become fat by doing nothing wrong and not making the wrong diet choices. For any sympathizer out there, especially feminists who even support women who are obese to remain obese, I would like to say that obesity should be treated the same way any medical condition should, to cure it permanently.
I don’t believe that obesity of women and men should be celebrated at all. It is a harmful physical condition and should be eliminated. Yes, sure you should love your body and yourself, but if you really loved your body, would you allow it to deteriorate into obesity and be riddled with diseases, or would you devote time and energy into maintaining it and keeping it in a healthy condition?
Coming to the question whether it is alright for men to reject women because they are fat, I say yes, it is okay, choosing your partner is your choice and is a completely subjective choice, so your opinions matter. Of course, this also means that others can reject you for any damn reason they feel is important enough, weirdly enough, a man could be rejected by a woman for spelling annoyed ‘enoyed’ (I agree with this particular woman’s choice). For women who feel this is unfair or even an insult towards women, you should know that women reject men (or worse, friendzone them) for many reasons like not having enough money, not liking his parents, being a jerk, and not being physically attractive which includes being fat. Of course women will never say it out loud, they tell the man politely (or crudely) that they don’t match in personality or he’s not their type, but in their minds if a man is fat, that is a fat minus.
From a psychological perspective, an obese person is more likely to have emotional issues (I’m truly sorry if I hurt your feelings, but truth doesn’t care about feelings), from a reproduction perspective, obese parents are much more likely to raise obese children, and from an aesthetic perspective, you would hardly find an obese person ‘sexy’. These reasons are more than enough to reject a courtship from an obese person, doesn’t matter which gender. This spells bad news for obese people, men and women, worldwide.
So, my message for obese women (and obese people in general), is that if you like your body as it is, that is fine and nobody should shake your resolve to love yourself as you are, and if a man rejects you for it, then you can consider that man as shallow and reject him in return, and I truly hope you find a more caring man who loves you for who you are on the inside.
For men who reject women because they are fat, don’t feel ashamed for it, much less fall for the shaming tactics of women to make you feel guilty for rejecting a fat woman without knowing her on the inside, and bow down to submission, even though you really don’t like fat women. Don’t consider yourself shallow because of it, choosing a healthy partner for reproduction is wired into our brains through millions of years of evolution, it is not just you, it is everyone.
All in all, accepting or rejecting a courtship is completely subjective and you are entitled to hold your own opinions, just don’t think that someone should follow your own criteria or a criteria that is favorable for you, much less try to enforce your own criteria on others using emotional tactics or otherwise.
Endnotes:
- The Psychosocial Burden of Obesity https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6052856/
- Obese parents increase kids’ risk of being overweight https://news.stanford.edu/news/2004/july21/med-obesity-721.html
